The following is a blend of paragraphs I came across on the web which was written for people who are considering committing suicide.
You are a valuable person! Please, Please, give yourself a chance! Suicide is NOT the answer. The common link among people who kill themselves is the belief that suicide is the only solution to a set of overwhelming feelings. People think that suicide is the only way to finally end these unbearable feelings. The tragedy of suicide is that intense emotional distress often blinds people to alternative solutions. We all experience feelings of loneliness, depression, helplessness and hopelessness from time to time. Suicide is final and can't be undone. Before deciding to make such a decision try getting help.
A web site with a list of phone number where one can obtain help is http://www.suicide-helplines.org/. General Resources about suicide can be found at Mental Health Net's suicide resources page.
I've included an essay at the bottom of this page by a psychiatric nurse about the consequences of making a suicide attempt. I received an email in response to this posting which criticized her essay. The email said:
I think your message comes across as being one of the Your wrong, your bad, your just going to get more messed up because suicide only makes you an even worse person then you already are. You attack the victim as if it were their fault. Condemn them in a way that suggests that you feel they deserve the hell of a mangled body.
Certainly that is not my intention or that of the author of the article. I myself have considered suicide and I don't think that was my fault or that it means that I was a bad person. I am very glad that I did not commit suicide. What I once was certain was a hopeless situation has become a rewarding and happy life.
I don't think the nurse who wrote the article meant to
criticize those considering suicide but rather to scare them into not doing it. I
think she just wanted to warn them of unexpected consequences and to encourage them to
seek help. I think her essay is an important warning which is why I continue to
include it below.
Before You Kill Yourself
By Renee T. Lucero (Reader's Digest -- June 1985)
You've decided to do it. Life is impossible. Suicide is your way out.
Fine -- but before you kill yourself, there are things you should know. I am a psychiatric nurse, and I see the results of suicide -- when it works and, more often, when it doesn't. Consider, before you act, these facts:
Suicide is usually not successful. You think you know ways to guarantee it? Ask the 25-year-old who tried to electrocute himself. He lived. But both his arms are gone.
What about jumping? Ask John. He used to be intelligent with an engaging sense of humor. That was before he leaped from a building. Now he's brain-damaged and will always need care. He staggers and has seizures. He lives in a fog. Worst of all, he knows he used to be normal.
What about pills? Ask the 12-year-old with extensive liver damage from an overdose. Have you ever seen anyone die of liver damage? You turn yellow. It's a hard way to go.
What about a gun? Ask the 24-year-old who shot himself in the head. Now he drags one leg, has a useless arm and has no vision or hearing on one side. He lived through his "foolproof" suicide. You might too.
Who will clean your blood off the carpet or scrape your brains from the ceiling? Commercial cleaning crews may refuse that job -- but someone has to do it.
Who will have to cut you down from where you hanged yourself or identify your bloated body after you've drowned? Your mother? Your wife? Your son?
The carefully worded "loving" suicide note is no help. Those who loved you will never completely recover. They'll feel regret and an unending pain.
Suicide is contagious. Look around at your family. Look closely at that 4-year-old playing with his cars on the rug. Kill yourself tonight and he may do it 10 years from now.
You do have other choices. There are people who can help you through this crisis. Call a hotline. Call a friend. Call your minister or priest. Call a doctor or the hospital. Call the police.
They will tell you that there's hope. Maybe you'll find it in the mail tomorrow. Or in a phone call this weekend. But what you're seeking could be just a minute, a day or a month away.
You say you still don't want to be stopped? Still want to do it? Then I may see you in a psychiatric ward later. And we'll work with whatever you have left.
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